Dr. Sydney Ceruto
CHANGE the way you CHANGE
If you want to make changes in your life and are considering
Couples Counseling Seeing a Couples Counselor Marital Counseling Relationship Coaching Premarital Coaching Couples Coaching Relationship Therapy Couples Therapy Marital Coaching Premarital Counseling Marital Therapy Relationship Counseling Premarital Therapy
You must first understand that traditional approaches
DO NOT WORK!
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“The secret of CHANGE is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
Dr. Sydney Ceruto
Dr. Sydney Ceruto
Time – Most clients achieve their goals within 90 days, unlike traditional methods which can take years or even decades.
Cost – The old adage “you get what you pay for” could not be more applicable when it comes to your mental wellbeing.
Qualifications – Dr. Ceruto is a pioneer in the field of neuropsychology, she possesses an extensive psychological education along with 20+ years of experience.
Neuroscience, the differentiator – Billions of pathways in your brain light up every time you “think, feel, or do something.” If you want new habits to become ingrained in your daily life, then it is a matter of building and strengthening certain pathways while not reinforcing others.
What Clients Are Saying
Dr. Ceruto holds vast knowledge of neuroscience and then applies it to thoughts, emotions and behaviors in such a way that you can’t stop wanting to learn more. We were on a waiting list for a bit, but truthfully, it was worth the wait, she is terrific!
With Sydney’s unwavering support, vast knowledge and availability, we both made massive changes within ourselves and in our relationship. Sydney is really, really amazing!!!
Sydney is warm, insightful, smart, compassionate, fun, and non-judgemental…overall a fantastic marriage counselor. My only regret is not having found her many years ago.
A Solution Rooted In Hard Science
The reason traditional therapy, counseling, or coaching does not work is due to a combination of our default mindset, emotional processing, and a non-scientific approach. These antiquated methods fail to consider the physiological processes that come into play when trying to make changes in thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are enduring.
Armed with recent findings in neuroscience, we now understand how these elements have a significant bearing on the lack of efficacy in traditional therapeutic methods.
To bring about real change requires an all-encompassing scientific approach that alters patterns of thinking and behavior right at the root. We must tweak, change, or abolish old ways of thinking, emoting, perceiving, and behaving to rewire the brain towards much more advantageous neural connections. This sort of solution requires just the right combination of SCIENCE and PSYCHOLOGY.
At MindLAB Life Coaching, we offer an innovative service that does just that, tailoring goals for change toward each client and his or her unique dynamics. With expert knowledge of how the brain works and why we continually fall victim to our defunct, flawed, and faulty thinking patterns, it is entirely possible to inspire sustainable behavioral and emotional change. We do this on a physiological level so that the client no longer has to be consciously aware of or continually working on their desired changes.
What neuroscience has made evidently clear is that changes in the brain cause changes in your thinking, behaviors, and emotions.
Discover the faulty thought patterns that create negative neuronal associations.
Break the destructive emotions and behaviors happening on a frequent and mostly subconscious level.
Re-wire your brain’s neural pathways with positive and accurate assertions until they become your default setting.
To repair or strengthen a relationship, we need to change our thinking and negative associations.
For change to be enduring, we need it to take place in the neural circuitry of our brain.
Do we need to see a couples counselor?
A wide variety of couples seek counseling for common to complex issues. It may be time for you and your partner to get started on couples therapy if:
- You have poor communication
- You’re struggling with finances
- You’re arguing more than normal
- You’re experiencing sexual dysfunction or frustration
- You’ve lost trust in your partner, possibly due to cheating
- You’ve recently experienced a major life change, such as loss of a job
- You’ve been keeping something from your partner and don’t know how to tell them
Couples counseling isn’t always about solving problems. Sometimes it’s about preventing them. For instance, if you’re in a serious relationship and considering marriage, couples counseling can be beneficial for helping each of you learn how to communicate better so you can experience a long and loving marriage.
How can couples counseling help?
There are many discoveries in the field of neuroscience that will benefit couples by gaining a new perspective on how to sustain your partnership.
No matter how well we know someone, there’s infinitely more to discover about them. Dr. Ceruto helps you both uncover new ways to start conversations by asking questions that go deeper and teach you to listen for nuances you never noticed before. You’ll be surprised how much you learn and how much closer it brings you intimately!
Through cognitive neuroscience, Dr. Ceruto helps you master the art of communication by sticking to facts and reason, and not to plan your responses ahead of time or react in the same old ways. This keeps you both from trying to “win” the conversation and treat each other like an opposing force, instead of a real teammate. So to start having successful communication, we train your brains to shift from negative communication traits over to more positive ones.
You will learn how to settle disagreements calmly and quickly while not compromising your own beliefs or opinions. Dr. Ceruto will teach both of you how to get into and stay engaged in a state of calm and quiet awareness that will help you both regulate your emotions. And for challenging conversations with your partner, emotion regulation is crucial in avoiding those tears down, knock out fights.
Healing from Pain or Infidelity
Unfortunately, in the struggle to navigate hurt feelings, we often see couples getting stuck around a set of grievances or perhaps one significant transgression that has never really been resolved. On the surface, it may seem that the relationship has “moved on,” but often that isn’t so. Because of this resentment or contempt, behaviors such as withholding or freezing out often develop. Dr. Ceruto teaches you many scientifically-proven alternatives to be indeed able to forgive and move forward productively, and in most cases, with a more profound connection.
The belief that sex somehow naturally goes away after moving in together, after marriage, after a baby, or after you get older, is not valid. Yes, sex changes, relationships change, bodies change, and energy changes. The sexual attraction isn’t static because you’re not the same people to one another in so many ways. At MindLAB Life Coaching, our program, helps couples reimagine what their sexual relationship can be–to discover one another anew, sexually, through a process that, in many ways, is not unlike getting to know one another as new partners.
Relationships are messy–in many ways, filled with frustrations and compromise. They can also be beautiful. So much of what our patients struggle with is the conflict between how they imagine their relationships should be, what they wished it would be, and the reality of what it. Dr. Ceruto helps couples approach the difficult task of refusing to settle for less than a great relationship while simultaneously working to recognize imperfections. Because both are vital, we help you develop emotional intelligence and arm you with a tool kit to get through even the toughest of times.
What clients can expect from couples counseling
- Guiding the couple through a win-win problem-solving process to resolution of each of the issues on which they have been stuck.
- Teaching essential skills so the couple can handle their subsequent differences collaboratively or on their own. There will be no need nor desire to either disengage from each other or fight.
- Teaching skills for keeping the emotional tone between them happy and loving. No more anger, depression, or anxiety. Much more sharing of affection and appreciation.
- Gaining insights into the childhood origins of their problematic habits and preventing further excessive emotional reactivity that leads to distance, arguing, and isolation.
What is the most effective counseling for couples?
Utilizing the latest findings in Cognitive and Behavioral Neuroscience, MindLAB Life Coaching has developed a state-of-the-art program that serves as an alternative to traditional couples counseling which is antiquated and DOES NOT WORK.
This non-invasive treatment involves using your brain’s natural ability to change, neuroplasticity, its own neural connectivity, and its inherent ability to generate new, much healthier connections, called neurogenesis. This process has shown stellar results in changing your thought patterns and negative associations of your partner and relationship.
At MindLAB Life Coaching we use the latest and most innovative techniques to teach you how to regulate your brain’s neural pathways to a much healthier way of thinking, feeling, emoting, behaving, and perceiving. It’s like a workout for a brain, and the best part is that the changes we make are permanent and become your new default setting.