The past can be so haunting. An awful thing happened and now there is a constant loop of the event playing over and over in your head.
It is to the point where the Past negatively dictates the Now.
When the Past negatively dictates the Now, the Past negatively dictates the Future.
Do not allow the sins of yesterday, whether it be your sins or others, distract today.
Today, allow yourself to break free from the shackles.
Free yourself from haunting pain and build towards tomorrow.
Allow Yourself to “Purge”
Feel your emotions. Accept your emotions.
Too often people bottle things up.
More often than not, when you bottle up your emotions, they are released in regrettable ways. You end up hurting yourself and others.
Common ways people deal with pain:
- One night stands
- Procrastination, etc.
Alone, these activities are not bad. They are only bad if they are used as DISTRACTIONS.
Distractions always do more harm than good.
Do not deny yourself to process your feelings and properly heal. Do not use band-aids on your wounds when you need to deep clean them.
Healing is a process. Allow yourself to feel every emotion you are feeling. Allow your body and mind to expel all their energy. I call this, “purging.”
Purging is the act of exhausting your emotions. Instead of relying on distractions, try this:
Find a place where you have complete privacy, either your room or your car.
Picked a place? Good.
Now any emotions you are feeling…feel it to the nth degree. Explode.
Feeling sad? Cry and cry HARD.
Feeling angry? Yell and yell LOUD.
Any emotion you are experiencing, feel it without holding back. Do not keep any ounce of your emotions in.
Never deny your feelings. You are feeling it for a reason. When you deny your feelings, you are building up energy. All forms of energy cannot be contained, it needs to go somewhere…your emotions need to go somewhere. With purging, you allow your body and mind to honestly express themselves. Being honest with yourself is the first step in healing.
Even if the emotions you’re feeling do not make sense, accept them. Whether it be anger, sadness, jealousy, hate, etc…feel it and feel it fully.
We cannot get over pain without processing pain. We cannot process pain if we keep avoiding pain. There will be a time where you should vent to others, friends, family, etc. These people are important and necessary. However, to start the healing process…
The first to know and feel your emotions is yourself. Accept and Choose Yourself. After purging, after going through all of your emotions, you need to make a decision. Accept the situation and choose yourself.
As much as it hurts to hear…This situation, the painful past that is haunting you…it happened. You cannot do anything about it. You cannot remove it, you cannot pretend it didn’t happen, you cannot hide from it. If you think you can, the past has control over you.
Do not forget about your Past, live better because of your Past. Look at the situation and acknowledge it’s reality. As the classic saying goes, “to solve a problem, you must know there is a problem. ”So, tell yourself, “Yes, this happened…Yes, it was painful. Yes, I am choosing to no longer let this control me.”